It’s one of the most vulnerable questions I hear from men—whispered in one-on-one sessions, hidden in email subject lines, or delivered with a nervous laugh during an initial consultation: “How do I convince my wife
It begins quietly. Not with a scream, not with a demand—but with a silence. A woman lies next to a man she loves, maybe even a man she built a life with, and she realizes
It begins with a request—soft, hesitant, and half-serious. “Maybe… maybe you shouldn’t touch yourself unless I say so.” She’s testing the waters. He’s surprised, aroused, a little terrified. He laughs. Says okay. They try it
He didn’t expect this to last. Most men don’t, when they first enter the pussy-free dynamic. They assume it will be a temporary experiment—an erotic edge to test, endure, and eventually return from. In the
It doesn’t begin with dominance. It doesn’t begin with power. It begins with a feeling. A sense—sometimes vague, sometimes electric—that something in her erotic life is asking to expand. She doesn’t want to betray him.
They began with curiosity. Maybe it was his fantasy—one shared late at night, wrapped in hesitation and arousal. Maybe it was a shared experiment, lighthearted and daring. Maybe it started with stories, then escalated into
I’ve sat across from hundreds of couples—heterosexual, cisgender, long-term, often monogamous in history and hesitant in tone. And yet, somewhere in the second or third session, the same energy begins to emerge. The wife leans
He’s the boy who shoved you into lockers. He’s the athlete who stole your girlfriend, smirked across the cafeteria, called you names that still ring in your ears when your defenses are down. He’s the
There is a point—usually after a few weeks of total sexual control—when the husband begins to unravel. He’s agreed to chastity, or a no-touch rule, or a soft dynamic where he must ask permission before
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